Everybody lives at their own speed.
Some need a month to prep for a doctor's visit and if they need it in the next week, they are panicked.
Some do rapid scheduling and don't need notice.
I am thinking that a lot of conflicts arise when people working at different speeds can't adjust to the other.
I think I know where I am on the spectrum. I found out on Friday that I need to leave for Taipei on Monday. This is typical. This is actually considered "advance notice". The various obligations for next week can be canceled without me stressing over scheduling issues.
I'm loving it. I like this speed. It matches my insides. I am so glad I am surrounded (mostly) by people who can support me and my fam!