My little Aee has a strong passion for anything science-oriented and I am seeing that slowly die as she reads various fluff books and generally absorbs these invisible little undercurrents that still exist.
Bio Lady: "Well, my mom worked as a biologist and I saw her passion for her work."
Me: (after a long pause) "But... usually when people come home from work, they are tired, having given their best to the job. Wasn't your mom tired when she came home? I worry that my kids will only see the fatigued side of me and grow up wanting to avoid my mistakes."
Bio Lady: "Sure, yeah, I'm struggling with that now too, but it was different back then. My mom got home at 4 or 5 every day without fail and she had a full-time maid so dinner was on the table when she walked in the door."
Me: (jaw dropped)
Bio Lady: "I got to hear about the cool stuff she was doing."
Me: (picking up jaw) "Full-time maid?"
Bio Lady: "Uh, yeah, full-time."
Bio Lady: "Full-time."
In my mind I see the To Do list:
* Grocery shopping
* Fixing the faucet
Literally about 300 To Do items all clearly and prominently scrolling through my mind's eye. Holy cannolli. It IS a full-time job!
If you sat me down with pencil and paper, I could list them all out in a heated timed-test fashion, grouped in whichever way your request.
- Tasks by frequency? List: Daily, Weekly, Monthly, Yearly
- Tasks by type? Cleaning, Maintenance, Food supply, Scheduling, Exterior (yard + vehicle), etc.
- Tasks by duration? Quick 30 second tasks, Five minuters, Half-hour tasks, Half-day tasks, Full weekend tasks.
Later that night, Vee and I went on a run. I talked to him about it and his reply:
Vee: "Well, yeah, Mom. Think about it. Caring for a family and a home is about 8 hours a day. Think of all the shopping, cleaning, cooking, and all that needs to be done. Work is 8 hours if you're lucky. We like to see you for about 4 or 5 hours after school and somewhere in there you need some time to yourself. And then, maybe some sleep."
Me: (running in somber silence)
Vee: "Do the math."
We talked about how the work is scalable, about how housework can take the time of several full-time people if you make it and it can also take nearly no work (but there are consequences). I rehashed all my old beliefs that having a smaller home, streamlined work processes, and having the whole family help were valuable work arounds.
But, the bottomline is that I'm trying to squeeze a Too Big job into too small a space.